Most people recognize June as the celebration of the LGBTQIA Community and its history, culture, achievements, etc., and while that is important to recognize, we should also acknowledge that June is also a month that highlights the struggles that men face with mental illnesses.
I recently lost a friend to suicide and would not wish this upon anyone.
Through the past weeks I read prior text threads countless times to see what signs I missed.
While I found no signs and had to stop blaming myself for my failure to prevent this tragedy, I took a step back to determine what was preventing them from seeking help.
There is no doubt that society has shamed men into believing they must repress their emotions to appear more manly; this is especially common in Latin American culture.
Males are expected to provide for their family while having a smile on their face, showing signs of negative emotions opens the judgment and questioning of their manliness and ability to support not only themselves but their family.
Men are suffering in silence due to the stigma seeking help.
We must create a more accepting society that encourages others to prioritize their well-being and to acknowledge when they should search for support.
When offering comfort to others here are some helpful tips: avoid saying “you’ll be fine,” instead create an open conversation; offer specific ways you can help whether it be calling to set up an appointment with a professional; or help searching for a job.
In the event that you are experiencing an acute crisis, do not wait for things to get worse, don’t make big life changes and refrain from relying on substances.
If you or someone you may know are experiencing a crisis reach out to a professional or call the suicide and crisis lifeline (988); help is just a call away.
For the male readers of The South Texan, please know that you are not alone, and you matter.
